How It Works

Simple rules.
Better dating.

No complicated algorithms. No hidden systems. Just clear rules that hold everyone to the same standard.

Getting Started

From sign-up to showing up

Getting on 3STRIKES takes a few extra steps. That's the point. Every person you match with has done the same.

1

Verify your identity

Every member completes ID verification before they can match with anyone. No catfishing. No fake profiles. You always know you're talking to a real person.

2

Build your profile

Write a profile worth reading. With only 10 matches a day, people actually take the time to read yours. Make it count.

3

Get matched

Each day you receive up to 10 matches. Enough to be meaningful, few enough to give each person real attention. No endless swiping.

4

Show up

Make plans and keep them. Your reliability score reflects how you treat the people you match with. It's visible to everyone.

Pattern Recognition

Your behaviour tells a story

We don't punish bad days. We recognise patterns. One cancelled plan isn't a problem. A habit of disappearing on people is.

1

First Strike

A pattern is forming. The system has noticed repeated behaviour that affects other people's experience. Your reliability score adjusts, and others can see it.

Pattern Detected
2

Second Strike

The pattern continues. Your match priority drops and you'll appear less often to others. This is the system protecting the community while giving you space to course-correct.

Restricted
3

Third Strike

The pattern is clear. Your account is suspended. Everyone had the same rules, the same chances, and the same information from the start.

Suspended

How Scoring Works

It goes both ways

The system looks at what you do and how accurately you report what others do. Everyone's accountable.

Behaviour patterns

Consistent ghosting, flaking, or dropping conversations after making plans all feed into your reliability score. One-offs happen. Patterns matter.

Feedback accuracy

Your reports carry weight, but that weight depends on how accurate your feedback has been over time. Consistently fair reporters help the system work better for everyone.

Recovery built in

Scores aren't permanent. Show up consistently, communicate openly, and your score reflects that. People change, and the system accounts for it.

No single incident

A bad week doesn't define you. The system looks at your track record over time, not one moment. Cancel with notice, communicate honestly, and you'll never have a problem.

Key Features

Built around respect

Reliability Scores

Everyone has a visible reliability score based on how they treat their matches. See who shows up before you invest your time.

10 Daily Matches

No infinite scroll. No swipe fatigue. Ten matches a day forces you to slow down and actually engage with the people in front of you.

ID Verification

Every single member is identity-verified. You're always talking to a real person who is who they say they are.

Matchmaker Mode

See someone perfect for your friend? Send the profile their way. Great matches shouldn't go to waste.

Ready to show up?

Join the waitlist. Founding members get early access and perks that won't be offered again.

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